Do you wonder how a new relationship survives the mood issues I have had lately? Me too!!
Today I’m sharing more on my relationship with Carl. When I met Carl I was a mess he was my neighbor at the first apartment I moved into after my husband and I separated. We said Hi to each other and general niceties but never really spent any time together. I thought he was a nice man the moment I saw him but I didn’t feel good about myself and wasnt looking for a relationship. We lived there 3 yrs as neighbors until he moved out to move in with his girl friend. I wished him the best and went on my way. A year after he moved, I ran into him at a local park and we chatted for a while. No big deal really. I was pretty stable at the time and was happy open to a relationship. Well as it turned out he had just moved out of his girlfriends house, I told him how sorry I was it didn’t work out etc.
Then a few weeks later two days before I went to court for my divorce, he tracked me down at a local store and asked me out. He proceeded to tell me that he always regretted not asking me out and he has looked for me to ask me out for a week or so. He said he was frequenting the areas my kids went to school in hoping to run into me. He assured me he wasn’t a stalker.. haha I was shocked had no idea he wanted to date, I accepted his invite to dinner without hesitation and we have dated more than a year now.
We see each other daily with a few exceptions. He has experienced some of my weird moods and he is still here. So I guess he hasn’t been scared off as of yet. I have never actually told him what my diagnosis is because he hasn’t asked. I have told him about my experience with moods and depression he knows I have had some bad years with it and this last 6 months he has experienced those moods, not the worst ones but some not so good ones. He gives me the space I need and is not offended by my moods.
I have told him that I have depression and mood issues and have talked about a lot of those and listened to him about some of my different moods that he has noticed. He knows the doctor took me out of work and that I take several medications daily for the depression. I really don’t know how he feels about all that as we haven’t discussed it yet, but he is still around and we still have a great time together, even doing nothing.
This man is amazing, he is easy to be with, easy to talk to about everything, he isn’t perfect mind you but he is funny, friendly, outgoing and loving. He respects me and all women, he is a bit opinionated on politics so that’s not a good topic. haha He is the kind of guy that opens doors for you and offers to help with anything and everything, although he doesn’t like me helping him with stuff. It’s a man thing I think.. I help anyway, sometimes. He worries about me being under too much stress but he doesn’t push his opinion on me, he respects my choices. He has supported me in helping my friend who was having marital issues even though he felt I was being taken advantage of, he voiced that but not disrespectfully. He then let me realize it all on my time. He never puts me down in any way! To me he is nearly the perfect man. He is good to my kids too and they both like him. He doesn’t overstep boundaries with them though, he respects them.
So as time goes on and we get to talk more about feelings etc I’m sure I will be posting more about this wonderful man. Wish us luck!!