I don’t think I have mentioned this before, but my oldest daughter will be 16 on December 30, 2011. Yep roughly three weeks away, Yikes!! She has learned to drive so I thought I might share a bit of the story.
My Daughter will be 16 yrs old this month. Man does that make mama feel old! She has had her drivers permit since August 30, 2011. She has had 6 hours of drivers instruction behind the wheel and a full class on drivers safety etc. We started practicing driving honestly before she had her first lesson. I just took her to a LARGE school parking lot and she drove in circles.
It is important for you to know that my car is a stick shift/manual transmission. It’s not easy to learn to drive much less learning on a car you have to shift and control at the same time. Actually to my surprise she took to it quicker than I thought she would. Remember she is Bipolar2, high anxiety and depression, with the issues I have written about in a earlier post A Broken Relationship.. Father and Daughter, and the 4 yrs. of bullying she went through at school, she has NO confidence left. So I thought it would really take some practicing for her to get the hang of it. Nope it didn’t she took to it very well in a short time. I will tell you that every time she made a mistake or stalled the car she blamed me. I finally had enough of that and we really got into a fight. It is important she understands she is responsible while she is driving and has to think for herself. I think at this point we have that worked out.
Then one day, she was parking the car under our car port and well she had an accident. No one was hurt but she was devastated that she did damage to a wall and the car. She was pulling into our parking spot and you have to let out the clutch enough for it to engage and give it a bit of gas to get it to go into the space and when she started to let out the clutch her foot slipped off the clutch and her other foot, well it hit the gas! Into the wall we went, broke almost all the way through it. Once the car stopped I looked at her and she was crying hysterically and I said, “It’s ok sweetie, its ok.” She responded sobbing ” No it’s not mommy I crashed the car through the wall.” I said, “I know but it’s ok we have insurance.”
I then proceeded to get her out of the car so I could pull it back out of the wall and over the little cement stopper in the parking spot. Neighbors came out as it was a loud crash I just said, “We are learning, I will call the office in a few.” and the neighbors went back inside leaving us to it. Thankfully as she was embarrassed and upset enough she didn’t need an audience and my mom was in the car with us. It would have been better for her if it were just her and I in the car.
This Happened on November 3, 2011! Currently its December 8, 2011 and she has finally started to drive again and doing better than ever, she even went on the Freeway for the first time in my car. I am so proud of her that she is driving again as I wasn’t sure she would ever drive this car again. She was really hard on herself about the accident but finally we have her back and driving again.
She has struggled with anxiety during this time her nerves about driving made her hard to take but I tried to stay calm and just let her do it. She is amazing girl, smart, talented, caring, loving, well just a great person all around. I AM VERY PROUD OF MY BABY!! ♥♥♥♥♥
Picture: Car Accident by Salvatore Vuono via freedigitalphotos.net