Yes, I am back on this subject once again. I have to tell you how sad I am for both my girls, yet how proud I am of them for standing up for themselves and for me. Let me recap the situation, if you have read my other posts about the broken father daughter relationship between my oldest daughter and her father you have an idea what I am talking about.
There was another incident with my youngest daughter, her step mom and her father. She spent weeks away from him, not seeing him at all but missed him terribly. The reason was the stress in his home with her step mom and they way she was being treated by said Step mom. I had talked to her and got her to try again with him and see if things might be better. Why? you ask. I don’t know, I was hopeful.
She spent a couple weeks seeing him two afternoons a week and every other weekend. The second weekend she spent there all heck broke loose. Sunday at 7:30pm I got a call from her, she was crying and very angry, yelling at me to come get her. I could hear her father and step mom screaming at her in the back ground then I hear the step mom scream, “I am calling the cops on you, you attacked me!” What is going on I asked my girl. She tells me that she was defending me as her father and step mom were calling me names and saying how unreasonable and crazy I am. She tried just explaining the issue but then her step mom got mad, got in her face and when my girl tried to walk away to her room, to avoid the further fight, her father and her step mom followed her to her room, yelling at her and started calling her names.
At this point she lost it and she started yelling back and cussing (not OK) at them. Step mom gets in their faces with rage and when she came toward my girl with her hands up my little one met her hands with her hands and pushed her hands away. That was the attack step mom was referring to. Step mom threatened to break her finger (I heard that on the phone) and all sorts of other things.
Little history: The step mom has a daughter and she got into a physical fight with her pulling out a huge chunk of hair and giving and getting black eyes, so we know she can be violent. This daughter was 18 or 19 at the time not sure of her age.
So I went to run out the door and I got a text that said, “he is bringing me.” So I called her and said, “am I coming to get you or is he bringing you now?” She said we are in the car. I was very scared for her this time, I never have been before but hearing her threaten my girl and that she was calling the cops, I got frightened.
When she got home, she got out of his car and told him to never f#@#@ come back. I was shocked, but as it turned out on the drive to my house her father told her she couldn’t come back to his house again. She also told me that step mom was screaming as they left and her father had locked her out of the car because she was determined to come with them, but she was screaming, “The cops will be at Shauna’s house, you attacked me,” as they drove away. keep in mind they were all outside at this point as my girl tends to go outside so she doesn’t get cornered. She hasn’t heard from him since. It has been more than a week.
I know that if his household is like this then both my girls are better off not seeing him but even my older one was still making the occasional effort to see her dad and now she can’t do that so they are both sad and mourning their relationship with their father. I am just broken hearted. How long is this going to go on? I have to say that with both girls suffering with depression and on medications they are handling this pretty well but that worries me. I don’t want them to hide their depression or feelings. We are all pretty open with one another but I know there is stuff they keep to themselves because they don’t want to hurt me or concern me. I wish they wouldn’t do that!
So this is what has got me a bit depressed. Seeing my girls suffering because of a jealous step mom is awful. They are his daughters and not any competition for her but she doesn’t seem to see it that way. I can’t wrap my head around this still.
Anyway, Thanks for listening to my depressed, bipolar stories. If any of you would like to share your experiences I am open to you guest posting on my blog. Just contact me via my email, [email protected].
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